Joel Hueppi

Why do we debate? – Do we debate to get to the fullest truth which will lead to the most plausible outcome? – Or do we debate to win. Bring our points across. Control the narrative.

Frankly, I don’t know, what I know however is that I lost an argument today, my emotions got the worst of me. Why did we argue you may ask? Because of an instagram repost of a stranger. Some political bs about Switzerland I disagreed with. Very stupid to say the least, but as we all know, arguments are stupid and often don’t lead to anything but they are NOT unnecessary, they are vital just like the air for our survival is vital, debates and arguments are vital for us to function in any kind of relationship.
80% of a relationship is live, love laugh, butterflies and the other 20% are dogshit.
Love, sadly just like a key always falls into the shits.
Everyone can handle the 80% with ease. Constant kisses, cuddles, affection and companionship certainly aren’t a lot to struggle with, Dogshit on the other hand is. Complaints, jealousy, misunderstandings and ignorance all lead to arguments. Arguments that hurt feelings and can even result in broken lamps (look for help in this case) really are a handful to cope with.
It is easy to love a person when they share the same interest or side to an argument, but true love surfaces when you are furiously mad at the person you call your soulmate and still don’t want to dump his/her’s ass.

Back to what I was saying, I lost a battle today, a devastating loss for all my emotions.
I lost because of my emotions. If you wanna win an argument you cannot under any circumstances leave space for emotions and feelings. The one who gets emotional first while debating has already lost.
Then why did I get emotional? – simply because losing didn’t matter to me and believe me that is big news for me. I played handball for the last one and a half decades and was never font of losing, well to be fully transparent I couldn’t lose and still can’t. Can’t deal with the defeat, guilt, overthinking of a loss, so i decided to loose less in life, which as cocky as it sounds actually worked wonders, as soon as you put your mind to something and fully believe in it it starts to happen. – (also known as manifestation or woo-doo bs).
The argument earlier today wasn’t for me to win, it was for me to show my gf what I believe in and show her my flaws.

All together, debating is a form of talking that often seems like it’s leading nowhere but if you actually care about the person it bondes you more and makes the 80% increasingly beautiful and mesmerizing.